Welcome!

You deserve pleasure and sensuality.

You deserve connection and love.

You deserve a Sex & Dating Coach who can help you get there.

When confident, busy professionals reach out to me, it’s because they can’t seem to channel that same confidence into their dating and sex lives. And most have no idea what a sex and dating coach even does.

I get it, because that used to be me.

My clients work with me to reconnect with their body and emotions – for some, they’re seeking that connection for the very first time.

Together, we shed the layers of shame they carry around honoring their needs and desires, so they can go on to have the intimate experiences and genuine connection they’ve always wanted.

You deserve to share that level of intimacy with yourself and others. And, you’re allowed to hire someone to help you get there.

Why Hire a Sex and Dating Coach?

Because we aren’t all born with the innate ability to connect and be vulnerable with others or even ourselves. In fact, many of us were raised to prioritize others first, brush aside our needs, and make others comfortable by not being “too much.”

Working with a certified sex and dating coach will help you unlearn all that old programming, and finally get in touch with your own sensuality (because YES we do all have it!).

Working with me as your intimacy coach, you’ll experience:

  • Relief in not being judged, but rather in finally being seen and understood in your pain
  • Joy at being accepted, embraced and celebrated for your relationship needs and sexual desires
  • An aliveness at learning how to better understand and connect to your core eroticism
  • A fullness and warmth at having space to feel and express your emotions – all of them – and to be embraced in those moments
  • Excitement when you realize you are actually capable of behaving differently (rather than just reacting according to your normal patterns)
  • A lightness at discovering your sexual desires, how you want to explore them, and being embraced and celebrated along the way

You’ll also learn to:

  • Re-frame the stories you tell yourself that negatively affect how you approach and feel about dating and sex
  • Communicate what you want, both emotionally and sexually
  • Identify and communicate your needs and boundaries
  • Access your erotic energy and learn how to share it with others
  • Mitigate and manage nerves when dating
  • Understand your erotic desires better, and the skills that go along with it
  • Expand your comfort zone around dating in order to be your sexiest, strongest, and most confident self
  • Experience exquisite pleasure when you have the kinds of sex you’ve only previously fantasized about
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